My nephew graduated from college last month…
and as with all life changing events, it provoked me to reflect, take a pause and write down some thoughts on what I have learned since I graduated from college.
So, here is the short version of what I shared with him at Diego’s restaurant amongst immediate family. By the way, here is the Yelp review I wrote about my experience that evening at Diegos.
These were just random thoughts on life and business in no particular order:
Life is gray. It is NOT black and white and because it is gray that means you will be required to use your brain and take pause, reflect, and give great thought when making important decisions.
Don’t ever make a decision, especially a big decision when you are emotional or tired. It always helps to sleep on it.
Don’t let people tell you what or how to think. Use your own intelligence, instincts, and intuition.
Life is really short. It goes by very fast, so don’t waste it on pettiness or trivial B.S.
Life is much too short to complain. Complainers tend to be people who feel helpless. Instead, be a problem solver, a SOLUTIONARY.
Don’t sweat the small stuff…and believe me, most of it is small stuff.
Invest your time and energy with people who LOVE you and don’t mistake their kindness and generosity for weakness.
Listen more than you speak.
Always give people the benefit of the doubt.
Learn, grow, evolve.
The only thing that is constant is change, so be flexible.
Take time to travel the world.
Play a FUN sport that builds camaraderie and use it to build relationships.
Stay far away from people who create a lot of drama. They will suck a lot of your precious time and energy.
Take time to celebrate the small successes along the way to your BIG successes.
Be present. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is not here yet. That is why today is a gift.
Protect and pursue with a vengeance your creativity, imagination, passion and inspiration.
Step into the divine power of YOU…of being YOU.
Don’t let people project their own fears and insecurities onto you.
Don’t wait for permission from anyone to live out your DREAMS.
Play to your strengths NOT your weaknesses.
Be prepared when opportunities come knocking.
If you find yourself talking too much in a sales meeting just WAIT! That’s the acronym to ask yourself Why Am I Talking?
If you find yourself leading a large group of people, I hope that you help lead them back to themselves and that you help them find their own answers.
Listen to your body. It is very smart. It will always let you know what it needs if you pay attention to it.
Don’t over indulge in one thing for too long.
Don’t let people tell you who they are. Let them show you.
Understand the kind of person you are dealing with whether it be personal or business.
Sometimes situations and people aren’t always what they appear to be.
Take deep breaths and long walks. Watch sunsets.
Commune with nature. Respect and learn from her. She is a gift.
Interact with people with the mindset of how you can help them and make their lives better.
Have an attitude of gratitude.
Live below your means. Be a Saver not a Spender.
Cultivate, nurture and strengthen relationships that matter.
Don’t ever stop dancing and singing.
Laugh OUT LOUD.
Make decisions from a place of values and integrity.
Your thoughts will determine the outcome of your life. Learn to manage them.
There’s a time and a place to be spontaneous and a time and a place to plan. Know the difference.
Life is a journey not a destination so make sure you have a lot of FUN along the way.
Don’t eat too many simple carbs, meat, white sugar and processed foods. That’s a recipe for an unhealthy body.
The world has gone global thanks to technology, but local community still matters. So, get out and get involved in your local community.
May you continue to enchant people with that beautiful smile and engaging personality! You are the one who you have been waiting for.
I then ended my opportunistic moment of advice-giving with these famous words by Marianne Williamson.
Any other thoughts or advice you can offer to a newly college grad?
What have you learned from your business and personal life since you left college or were in your twenties? My nephew is listening.